Yet there are some who carry grievances as if they were badges of honor. They’re not honorable and have no redeeming value to anyone whatsoever.
Grievances are akin to a dark mass that surrounds those who carry them. What can they do?
1. They can subdue the light. It is contrary to that great exhortation:
In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. -Matthew 5:16
What will people see when we carry grievances? They will see a person who cannot forgive, who is bitter and who is lacking in love; certainly not a person of light.
2. They can suppress joy. It is notable that the Bible equates joy with inner strength.
Nehemiah said, “Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.” -Nehemiah 8:10
Joy and grievances simply do not mix. If joy gives inner strength, then it follows that grievances weaken you.
3. They can blur spiritual understanding.
Where there is no revelation, people cast off restraint; but blessed is the one who heeds wisdom’s instruction. -Proverbs 29:18
This means we will be incapable of receiving wisdom. How can we when our thoughts and emotions are clouded by grievances?
4. They can cause graceless speech.
Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. -Colossians 4:6
Yet, our conversation cannot be full of grace if there are grievances in our heart:
For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. -Luke 6:45
Grievances hurt, but mostly to the ones who carry them.
Drop the grievances. Dispel the darkness. Let the love of God filter through.
Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. -Psalm 37:4 (NKJV)
But the question might be asked, “How does one delight in the Lord?”
Here are a few suggestions.
1. Believe with all your heart that God loves you. Because he does!
His love is non-judgmental. His love does not condemn. His love does not recognize titles, degrees, positions. His love is not limited by culture, educational background or religious belief systems. His love is unconditional.
It is us who sometimes try to define God’s love and our definitions always fall short. Don’t define nor rationalize God’s love. Just believe!
2. Immerse yourself in God’s love. Be in the here and now. Don’t dwell in the past, don’t worry about the future. God is doing something now. He’s loving you and desires to bring you to where he knows you can receive all that he has in store for you.
God’s presence is in the present. His power is in the present. His love is in the present. Be in the present!
3. Spread the love of God. Be compassionate. Be kind. Be forgiving, especially to yourself. Sing his praises. Hug people. Pay your tithes. Lead by serving. Share his word.
Be the person God wants you to be. When you do, you become the channel of his light and love. You become salt of the earth.
You become the very semblance of Christ on this earth.
“By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” -John 13:35
When you delight in God, God delights in you. And so will your fellowmen.
That, without question, is abundant living.